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This page contains some information
we trust will be of help to anyone
who is currently experiencing the
loss of a loved one who has died. In
time we will expand this
information.
When you experience grief it is
normal to feel:
• like you are "going crazy"
• unable to focus or concentrate
• irritable or angry (at the deceased, oneself,
others, higher powers)
• frustrated or misunderstood
• anxious, nervous, or fearful
• like you want to "escape"
• guilt or remorse
• ambivalence
• numbness
Healing your grief
Several authors have described
typical stages or needs that the
grieving person experiences. For
example, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
suggested that grief is
characterized by the stages of
denial, anger, bargaining,
depression, and acceptance.
Alan Wolfelt described "mourning needs,"
which include acknowledging the
reality of the death, embracing the
pain of the loss, remembering
the person who died,
developing a new self-identity,
searching for meaning, and receiving
ongoing support from others.
It is important to note that the
grief process is often experienced
in cycles. Grief is sometimes
compared to climbing a spiral
staircase where things can look and
feel like you are just going in
circles, yet you are actually making
progress. Patience with the process
and allowing feelings to come
without judgment can help. If you
feel stuck in your grief, talking to
a counsellor or a supportive person
may help you move forward in the
healing process. |
